This is the question posed to us by business mentor, writer, and spiritual entrepreneur Danielle LaPorte in this week’s Burning Question.
I was all set to write a post about the importance of chewing when her question landed in my inbox and caught my full attention. As riveting as it is, I think we’ll leave the subject of mastication to a future post.
What would you like to stop doing?
It’s a powerful question, and goes quite well with the slowing down I’ve been practicing with this pregnancy.
Clearing your life from the things that just ain’t working is just as important to vital self-care as eating your veggies or heading to yoga class. The mental freedom you gain, the creative space you open up, the self-love it affirms are just some of the delightful results.
What would you like to stop doing?
I’ll go first:
I’d like to stop biting my nails; it’s no example to set for the precious little creature I’m bringing into the world, and anyways it’s disgusting and unhealthy. I’d like to stop getting annoyed (read: rageful) at bad drivers. I’d like to stop putting other people’s needs before my own and realize instead that saying “no” is sometimes a bigger gift for everyone. I’d like to stop making silly excuses for not walking the daily mileage my midwife prescribed. And finally, I’d like to stop looking back and nit-picking at what I should’a/could’a/would’a done and just focus on what I can do going forward.
How about you?
What would you like to stop doing?
Share your stop-doings in the comments below.
And now… for the most important part. As Danielle writes:
….may we turn our “would like to stop’s” into done deals. Close your eyes and beam out from your heart great waves of liberating love to everyone reading this, that we may turn away from that which holds us back, and start doing more of that which pulls us forward.
I say a big YES to that!
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If you haven’t already done so, I highly recommend checking out Danielle’s new book The Fire Starter Sessions. Guaranteed to fire you up.
Great post! I’d like to stop getting so angry about one person that I have to deal with regularly at work. This will require that I be more accepting and forgiving. It really isn’t about me, anyway–it’s about him because he is this way with everyone.
I’d like to stop expecting more from those around me. Just because something is important to me doesn’t necessarily mean it is also important to them.
I’d like to stop getting so bent out of shape when things aren’t perfect in my life. I need to accept that, since I work full-time and have a three-year old, it will be a long time before my house is always clean like it used to be and before I have time to fit exercise, quiet time, husband time, and me time into my schedule daily.
It’s a tall order!
I would like to stop having negative thoughts over power good ones. I wake up already with the stressful or negative feelings at full speed. I put one out of my head, replace it with something good and it is not two seconds before I am back on that wave length. I have been making a conscious effort to be postive, to not let the stress and negative people to get to me ( especially the ones who think they are superior and their way of thinking “pure”. And I need to put me first- at least once and a while. With a disabled spouse, and all the responsiblities of running the house, there seems to be no time for me, even to work on the business I have put so much effort, time and money to get off the ground. It is not my husband’s fault he is needy, but sometimes he needs to be a little less demanding and more appreciative of what I do and the effect all the extra burden is having on MY health. Thanks for the vent space. BTW, I am working with a fellow NTP, Valerie Good, with my heath issues, so I am hoping as we progress, some of this negativity will be gone for good. Intellectually, I know it is bad, does help and makes me sicker, but try convincing the rest of me. Blessings, Susan
PS: And a big congratulations on your pregnancy, don’t know how I missed that previously!
Currently changing some. It is often easier at first to add than subtract but if the issue is time management….well you get it.
Another habit, I have been dependant on honey in a relationship way. Oh something sweet and healthy every morning and perhaps at first glance it started as a innocent relationship. I was going through a difficult passage and this little thing did help long ago leave an abusive relationship with sugar, who was physically abusive, you know in my brain too. Possessive type. It had a host of friends no doubt adding to the frenzy like a lifestyle of dysbiosis and yeast issues. They wanted to continue the relationship in ways modern chemistry probably still doesn’t know, survival craving for its self.
Well anyway now that I’ve cut off honey, I am hoping of course that we may begin a more health relationship in the future….denial? The thought of no contact is too, too hard. Honey has added benefits, and is helping with allergies…. I am trying to fill my life with better friends, lots of vegetables, yes…. But to be honest they can be not as exciting, they don’t create the crisis glucose kind of action I seem to enjoy and crave. I’ve added more health fats and proteins. If I have a party with them all it really helps. So hum who knows? Wish me luck.
I love this post, Margaret. Thanks for passing on good questions and information, supporting other women in their journeys to create more of what they want in life, well – I know you’re doing that for me, anyway 🙂
As for what I’d like to stop doing, to make room for more of what I do want:
I’d like to stop wasting energy with negative thinking, judgments, or any thoughts about what I could have or should be doing and focus on being present in the moment and appreciating exactly where I am, and the perfection of it. I’d like to stop putting energy into what others need to change and/or my expectations of them and rather focus on what I’m doing to be a more loving, compassionate, and powerful person in my own life/the world. I’d like to stop wasting time thinking about what I should be doing, creating more lists and systems, etc. and just do the things I want to be doing. I’d like to stop focusing so much on the DOING and focus more on BEING and connecting to my higher wisdom, my higher truth, my JOY and my INSPIRATION.
Thank you for being you. Much love.
Les